Why we always go back to basics

As a teacher I regularly see students become frustrated when teachers tell them, again and again, to work on something very basic. They think: “I have heard this already years ago and apparently I did not improve!” With every teacher offering a fresh view on the same problem it often feels like the study is a never-ending story. You never seem to “get there”. This despair can become so strong that people abandon studying altogether and just have fun with what they know. So why do we have to go back to basics? And why is it so frustrating?

First, let’s define what we mean by “basics”. Tango is an improvised couple dance with a vocabulary built of very few basic elements. We create all the possible sequences much like words and sentences are created from an alphabet. In individual technique we talk about three upper body related elements (posture, embrace and dissociation) and three lower body related elements (free leg movement, weight transfer and pivot). In couple communication we talk about leading and following the above movements in a musical context: giving or receiving direction, dissociation, embrace shape and distance, pivots, free leg movement, weight transfer, off-axis weight shift and so on. Leading is indicating what you wish another person’s body to do and following is moving your body as a result of somebody’s lead.

Each basic element can be performed in a variety of ways by changing its parameters. To give you a simple example: at the end of a forward step you can go upwards, straightening the standing leg, or downwards, bending the standing leg. This will create different dynamics. You can do this in an associated or a dissociated position of the upper body. While stepping you can open your embrace, close it or keep it the same. You can accelerate towards the end of the step, slow down or pause in the middle. You can step heel or toe first, with a curved or a linear foot trajectory, pushing the floor strongly with the standing leg or just a little. You can make a large step or a small one, put in a lot of energy or just softly slide into it. All this you can do while leading somebody or while following a lead. And here we are talking about just ONE forward step. Consider two people, each with two legs, moving and turning in numerous directions, and just imagine the astronomical amount of variations they can dance with these basic elements!

In the past it often happened (and happens still, here and there) that a teacher would develop one way of doing a certain movement (say, an ocho backward), with just one set of the above parameters, and then claim this was the only correct technique. When studying with another maestro, the students of such a teacher would become greatly confused, as the other maestro would also have his or her own set of parameters for a backward ocho and call it “the only correct one”. And here I am talking about a situation in which both ocho variations are done biomechanically WELL. Imagine the number of ways in which you could do those ochos badly! Nowadays most teachers understand that there are different ways of performing the same movement by changing its parameters. This knowledge allowed an explosive growth of tango vocabulary and also the emergence of clearly distinguishable styles.

A style is nothing else but a preferred set of parameters with which the basic elements are performed recurrently throughout the dance. By arriving downwards on a bent leg while accelerating towards the end of a step gives you a grounded, bouncy kind of walk. If you keep the same speed and travel from one leg to the other without changing the level, you will have a walk that rolls on smoothly. If you go upwards at the end of each step it will punctuate your walk by micro-pauses every time you arrive on a new leg. This is why claiming that one particular style is the only true tango is just as silly as claiming that a large sidestep to your left is the only true sidestep and people who insist on making any other kind of sidesteps are frauds or have no taste.

We start learning tango by mastering small sequences of basic elements, like in a language class a student would start with short pre-defined phrases. The walk, the ochos, the cross steps are all combinations of basic elements, they are not basic elements themselves. The beginner’s sequences are combinations of basic elements with a set of parameters that are the easiest to perform. In a walk, for example, it is better to learn not to change your level too much in the beginning, until you master it enough to be able to go up or down elegantly. At first we learn to pause in a cross step, to catch our breath, and later to walk on without a pause if we want. In former days, if you knew a complex figure you were considered advanced. Nowadays, if you know a complex figure but are not able to break it down into smaller elements and create a variation, you are no longer considered advanced, you just know how to copy. An advanced dancer is able to create “phrases” and change the parameters of the basic elements at will. A beginner can only say “My name is James” whereas an advanced dancer can say “My name is Bond. James Bond.”

Knowing basic technique means performing the main elements well within a simple tango vocabulary. Knowing advanced technique means performing the main elements well within both simple and complex tango vocabulary. The advantage of attaining a good level of basic technique is that complex vocabulary is easier to master. Yet, even if you have attained a solid level of basic technique, you will still need to practice advanced vocabulary before you master it. A way to understand this is to compare it to other motoric skills. While you might recite a short children’s poem effortlessly, the moment you go on stage to recite Hamlet’s monologue you will find yourself struggling with even the simplest phrases unless you have specifically practiced reciting Shakespeare. This happens because the overall complexity of your task is much higher in the second case.

The vast majority of tango classes are about learning steps: all the various combinations of the basic elements. This is done so that people can “converse” with each other in milonga and not end up dancing the same patterns over and over again. Ideally, tango classes let the students work both on the figures as well as on the technique. However, students sometimes learn very complex vocabulary without knowing the basics. This cultivates dancers that do difficult stuff badly. They are trying to recite Shakespeare without having practiced their diction first with something simpler. A poor mastery of the basics can be seen and felt in a dancer independent of what s/he does. Sometimes the sheer complexity of the figures bedazzles an outside viewer, creating the impression that the dancer is a virtuoso, yet ask such a dancer to just walk to the music or do some ochos and the lack becomes painfully apparent.

Why do tango people become frustrated when asked to go back to basics? Many teachers are of the opinion that tango people are essentially lazy. What they want is to party. They do not want to work hard and would love to dance difficult stuff without doing what it takes to dance it well. It is just another hobby for them and you can have a lot of fun in milongas without knowing the basics anyway. There is some truth to this view. Yet, there is also another reason.

A large number of people who come into tango never danced before and have a largely intellectual education, meaning that they have learnt the things they know by READING. Their daily activities are concentrated around processing and recalling information. Becoming an expert in a field that requires intellectual knowledge means working primarily with your analytical mind. When the goal of your learning is knowledge, the learning process can be fairly straightforward. Once you have understood a topic, you do not go back to it unless you have forgotten some of the details. And then a quick review is sufficient to refresh your memory.

This is not how it works in dance. Dance is not only about knowing and recalling, it is in the first place about doing and being. Intellectually knowing what to do is an important part of it, but still only a starting point. You have to train your body to move in a certain way. Learning dance is by definition a cyclic process, as dance only exists in the moment it is performed. Each movement has to be re-created every time, often in different conditions. Perfecting a movement means developing a motoric habit that produces the result you want in any circumstances. And when you are training your body to develop correct movement habits, you do it by repeating and consciously correcting what you do, reinforcing the associated neural pathways in your nervous system.

Progress in dance is achieved by going from simple to more complex movement patterns and back in loops. It is common for a professional ballet dancer to go to a class and get a correction about something seemingly trivial (say, a plié). For a person with no affinity with dance this sounds very strange. Shouldn’t a professional know by now how to do a plié? But in dance – as in playing music, acting on stage, singing or sports – it is not only a matter of knowing, it is a matter of doing it a little better every time. To a dancer going back to basics is what constitutes the most rigorous, most efficient learning. Dancers know that quality lies in the details and the details are always in the basics.

For a novice tango dancer this might come as a revelation. I once had a beginner student who during his second class remarked: “Damn, my walk is still not perfect.” When after one year students expect to move automatically from the “beginner” to the “intermediate” level, they believe that being familiar with the beginner’s vocabulary makes them ready for intermediate level, only to find out that the reality is more complicated. People can know lots of figures and dance all of them badly, or they can know few figures but dance them exceptionally well. This makes any kind of categorisation by level or the number of years in tango very difficult.

If you find yourself hearing the same things about your dance over and over again, remember that this is simply THE WAY IT WORKS. It does not mean you do not progress, you probably do, a little every time. When complex movements are difficult for you, the solution is to break them down into simpler patterns and to work on them until you can dance the combination flawlessly. This is why before we can do anything rapidly we first need to do it slowly; why before turning on one leg we need to have a good postural alignment; why before doing adornos with ease we need to learn how to stay in balance. And this is at once my conclusion and my most important message: dance is really nothing else BUT the basics. The great thing about this realisation is that each time you improve your basics your whole dance improves. This is quite a miraculous feeling and in itself is worth the struggle.

RUSSIANROMANIANCHINESEGERMANFRENCHSPANISHPOLISH

September 28, 2015

Why tango often feels like therapy

Once, in a single day, two different students told me: “I have a psychological block about starting the giro to the right.” Picture my face as a “puzzled” emoji. Another student, after I told him not to take so much care of the partner in the embrace, remarked sorrowfully: “This is a problem in all my relationships. I adapt to my partner to the point of losing myself completely.” And after I told another leader not to run away ahead of the partner, he exclaimed: “Story of my life! Run first, think later!”

It seems like at some point a vast number of people realised “in tango as in life” and figured out that our psychology has a tremendous impact on how we dance. And therefore changes to our psychological makeup must inevitably reflect themselves in our dance. And isn’t it sweet to imagine that we can dance better by doing something else than practicing?

I remember a young woman coming for a private class. She was a beginner, rapidly falling in love with tango and eager to dance well. Shy and soft-spoken, she had a general attitude of someone not willing to attract attention. I was showing her some exercises to open her chest, relax her shoulders and present an upright, proud, “here I am” posture. “See, how beautiful you look.” She glanced at herself in the mirror and quickly turned away, instantly slouching, tears filling her eyes. “Oh, I could never hold myself like this,’ she said. “This would be pretending I am beautiful… and I am not.”

Tango seems to have this uncanny ability to confront us with our insecurities and to unearth deeply buried beliefs. Often tango is literally the only thing capable of doing this, especially if we live a life we no longer question. Teachers joke about classes feeling more like therapy, especially with couples. Students, too, tell me that learning and dancing tango often feels like more than just dance. Tango brings up issues that have been in dire need of a resolution our entire life or – surprise! – something we thought we already resolved in other areas of life.

One of my students tended to rush into each step with so much zest that she frequently stressed out both herself and her leaders. I suggested to slow down and to complete each movement within its given musical time. It immediately changed how she felt inside the embrace but also how she looked. Instead of excessively tensing her muscles she was now calm, graceful and perfectly on time. Not only did it dramatically improve her technique, it revealed a different side to her as a human being. “I always thought that as a follower I had to be subservient,’ she remarked. “To show my leader how enthusiastically I am willing to do what he wants. When I complete my movements I feel like I am dancing for myself, just to feel good and to look beautiful. But inside me there is a voice saying: you cannot be that egoistic!”

Tango has a capacity of reflecting ourselves back to us with an almost unbearable clarity. I vividly remember the moment in my first year, watching a crowded dance floor, when I realised that I saw every single person in that room exactly the way they were in real life. It was as if I could literally see into their souls. I believe that improvising with another person takes up our attention so entirely that we have no energy left for pretending to be somebody else. And because in tango we mostly focus inwards, into the couple, we stop paying attention to what kind of an impression we make on people around the dancefloor. Once in the “flow”, we cannot help it but be who we are. Even if we hide parts of ourselves behind a mask, in tango we will be exactly that: a person trying to hide behind a mask.

In tango, our innermost personality is stripped naked for everyone to see. Or at least for those who know where to look. It then becomes tempting to seek psychological explanations for various problems in dance. I know people who over-psychologise every dance problem, making it about their “issues” rather than skills. They would say things like “I freeze because I don’t feel confident enough to express myself.” Or: “I lose balance because I am not a grounded person in general.” They judge others the same way, saying: “He tries all those complicated steps all the time, he must be very insecure.” Or: “Her embrace is rigid because she can’t let go.” The dubious statement “everyone dances the way they make love” is of a similar kind.

Psychological ideas sound very deep and true but aren’t necessarily, not every time. Daily we are bombarded with all kinds of psychological and neuroscientific knowledge, some of it sound, some blatantly inaccurate. Teachers and dancers praise themselves for knowing the “real” issues behind somebody’s behavior but the reality is rarely that simple. And even dancers with a background in psychotherapy can get it wrong. So how does understanding our psychology help us to dance better?

To analyse this, we need to divide things into different categories.

The first is about INSIGHTS. They come in a flash and feel exciting, no matter how grave and sad their nature seems to be. Insights are never only intellectual, there is always a strong feeling about the situation and yourself. If an idea crosses your mind but excites no emotion then it’s probably not an insight, it’s an educated guess. Or maybe not so educated. If realising “I always take too much care of the other person” releases a sudden avalanche of feelings, memories and realisations about life experiences, then we can talk about an insight. It makes you stop and wonder in amazement. It feels like you suddenly connected some previously separate bits of information. And, most importantly, it feels like you could do something constructive with this new understanding.

An insight helps you get results. No matter how serious it looks at first, an insight is inspiring, even if at the beginning you have no idea what to do. There is always something SPECIFIC about it. As a next step you can work on your psychological well-being and see it reflected in your dance and you can work on your dance in terms of technique, movement and musicality, and see it reflected in your personality. The latter is often much easier!

At some point in my life I realised I held an unconscious belief that I could never be really good at tango because I was, well… not Argentinean. Not a Latina, to be precise. Didn’t have the fiery temperament nor the proud stance nor the sensuous curves. I was a skinny, pale-faced, serious-looking Russian-born Northern European woman with an introverted temperament and a love for ballet. Where was I and where was Argentine tango? And then I said to myself: it is not about who I am and how I look. It is about how I move. I can put all the fire, joy, passion, sorrow and depth of my soul into movement. I can live this music the way I feel it and in dance, I can be a tanguera.

Quite different from insight is JUDGEMENT. No matter how true it sounds, a judgement always makes you feel bad about yourself. When you pass judgement on another person, it gives you a smugly superior feeling of knowing-it-better. A judgement disguises itself as an insight. However, an insight inspires you to look further, whereas a judgement makes you want to smash your head against the wall. It feels like it could easily trigger depression. It feels like there is something fundamentally wrong with you and always has been, you were just too stupid to see. Realising that you have a limiting belief is an insight. Telling yourself “I will never dance well because I am not from Argentina” is a judgement.

An INSIGHT into the psychology of another person makes you feel compassion for that person. For a split second you are looking “in” from the outside and the truth of what you see makes you feel the suffering of the other person as if it were your own. The same is true when you get an insight in your own ways of being. You see your own suffering, paradoxically, as if you were another person looking into it with compassion and understanding. A JUDGEMENT, on the other hand, sets you apart from other people. Both as a judge and as the one being judged. Unfortunately, growing up we all develop a severe inner critic. Any compliment or encouragement bounces off a wall of disbelief: “I surely can’t be that good!” We live our lives convinced that everyone else judges us just as harshly as we do ourselves. The internal pressure this builds can become so debilitating that learning to dance takes twice as long.

A judgement is always an attempt to explain in simple terms what in reality is very complicated. It’s the Dunning-Krueger effect in action. Judgement, when passed by a teacher, can literally destroy a student’s self-esteem. Judgements passed between dance partners can wreck their collaboration and poison the romantic relationship. Being too hard on yourself can push you to improve but it will also make you stagnate regularly instead of progressing. A judgement never yields an improvement, it just produces a high level of stress, the bad kind, and consequently blocks movement, sometimes quite literally.

At some point I made an interesting observation: people who consciously or unconsciously believed themselves to be ugly, struggled to move in a smooth manner. Their movements had a tendency to be jerky. Believing they were ugly created a permanent background of slight stress, resulting in tension which in its turn killed the flow. This doesn’t mean that all people who move jerkily are convinced they are ugly. There could be other reasons. Yet the people who are convinced they are not handsome find it very hard to have a relaxed flow in their movements.

You see, to flow requires you to feel “okay” about your body. To take sensual pleasure in simply moving around to the music. To not be overly self-conscious. To feel that you are allowed to exist, to dance, to play around, to take up space, to make a fool of yourself. Inner judgement makes you feel unworthy of all this. It makes you check your every move, trying to control it, and control is the opposite of flow. Control is also the opposite of mastery. Mastery gives you freedom, control takes it away.

Next to insights and judgements we have EXCUSES. They treacherously parade as insights and sound very convincing, yet do nothing for you whatsoever. At first an excuse brings a kind of relief, but excitement never follows. They serve, basically, to ward off judgement: your own, but especially that of other people. An insight gone stale can become an excuse. You carry it as a white flag, glad to explain to anyone why you are incapable of doing such-and-such. There is a sad comforting feeling about an excuse. Like judgements, excuses tend to be very GENERAL. Both judgements and excuses sound like there is something wrong with your whole life, whereas an insight points to something in the situation.

Let’s look at some of the examples in the beginning of the article. Both leaders who claimed to have a “psychological block” in truth had nothing of the sort: they simply lacked that little bit of skill that would allow them to initiate the turn to the right. We fixed it in five minutes. This lack in skill felt, for them, as stress, insecurity, a flaw. They judged themselves for being incapable and looked for an explanation in their psychology rather than skill. It was therefore a judgement, not an insight, and sometimes it served as an excuse not to try turning to the right at all.

The student who realised she had the tendency to rush, had an insight. Her eyes lit up when she realised it and when she tried to do things differently it brought her a direct result and an “aha” moment. She could also easily extrapolate this insight to a normal-life situation, such as waiting for a person to finish a sentence before rushing to the conclusion. If you do nothing with an insight, you might be tempted in the future to use it both as an excuse and a self-inflicted judgement. “Yep, the story of my life! Always running ahead of the train. Silly me.”

The case with the shy beginner is more complicated. She had stumbled, unwillingly, upon a deeply entrenched belief about herself that released a huge wave of emotion. What brought tears to her eyes was the sudden compassion she felt for herself as she was having the insight: it made her feel her pain as if being a gentle observer. Yet the insight was about something so fundamental, something that felt so difficult to change that it made her sad. At the same time, she harshly judged herself for everything at once: for feeling ugly, for thinking she might somehow be beautiful AND for thinking she was ugly, for crying in front of the teacher, for realising she had been carrying this inside her all her life, for not being able to do anything about it right away.

Let’s take another, very common example. Many women tell their teachers in their first year of tango that they cannot follow. Nope, nada, not me. In their daily life they are strong, independent women who make decisions for themselves! And in tango they must give away their agency? So they either rebel or try to force themselves into becoming a “more feminine woman”. The struggle seems all too real, the explanation seems to make sense. In the majority of cases, however, the concept of following is not properly explained and also profoundly misunderstood. People associate the word “follow” with “passively obey”. Once they get the correct idea and feel it in their body, they realise that not only does it not, in fact, go against their nature, but that they do that very thing (following) every day of their lives in many different situations, just as they lead in others. Yet in the beginning telling yourself “I am not the following kind of person” seems to explain away the confusion as well as any kind of trouble.

I like to show women who struggle with the “passivity” of following how real following feels when they are in the leader’s position. I embrace them gently and ask them to walk forward, without even trying to lead me, while I follow walking backwards. They usually stop after a couple of steps and say in amazement: “Wow, that felt so… active! But so connected at the same time!” Because, you see, even a highly independent, stubborn and impatient person is capable of communicating with someone if she chooses to. Capable of creating harmony, of playing together, of engaging in a conversation. Tango as a model of collaboration fits every personality. All you need to do is to learn the ways to do it and this comes through understanding MOVEMENT.

Of all the three categories only insights are truly helpful. An important aspect of an insight is that you get it yourself, first-hand. It can be triggered by something you are told or something you read, but the insight itself explodes inside your head when you are ready. If you are a teacher, I would caution you not to formulate insights for your students. You can’t. It doesn’t work like that. It’s like trying to make someone fall in love: all you can do is create the right conditions and hope for the best.

To teachers I would like to remind that any gratuitous judgement, even a cunning psychological assessment, is a boundary violation. Any unsolicited advice is a form of violence, even with the best of intentions. Especially with the best of intentions, as it becomes harder for the other person to retaliate without hurting your feelings. You are a tango teacher, not a therapist, even if you are a trained therapist but currently in your role of a tango teacher. Therefore you should be very careful about passing psychological judgement on your students, especially if you are a figure of authority to them. I cannot begin to tell how many people come to my classes with their self-esteem damaged by their teachers and dance partners. If students regularly walk out of your classes looking depressed and ashamed, then you are not a genius who opened their eyes to the truth. You are a bully. And you should know better.

Tango teachers are not therapists and should not try to act as such, no matter their training, background, personal affinity or the trust bestowed upon them by their students. This doesn’t mean you should neglect the psychological aspects of your student’s well-being (or your own). Body and mind, as we come to understand it, are one complex system in which everything influences everything else. It is very good for dance teachers to be knowledgeable in psychology and other bodymind related areas. But you are there primarily to teach people how to dance. So next time you feel the urge to tell that quarreling couple in your class: “You know, tango always brings up all your relationship problems!”, remember that you will pass an unnecessary judgement on two people who are already struggling, giving them no help whatsoever.

“There, Vero, tell them how it is!” you might be thinking. But I am sure you have passed judgement on other dancers just as freely. You might have drawn conclusions about somebody’s psychology by feeling their embrace or watching them dance. You might have been right at times and wrong at others. Maybe you terrorise your dance partners by judging their every move, convinced you can shame them into improvement. Maybe someone does that to you. Maybe you are that person who feels like the “know-it-all” after two years of dancing. Maybe you are convinced that the majority of people’s dance problems are in fact character flaws. We all fall prey to easy conclusions about complex phenomena. It’s not always our fault. Even this article is an attempt to describe in simpler terms something that is infinitely more complex.

Tango, like therapy, helps you realise things about yourself that can lead to positive change. Like therapy, it causes intense and often unpleasant feelings. The point is to process what is arising, allowing yourself to move further in your personal development. Tango offers a playground for this inner work, however, unlike therapy, it will not provide you with the tools to do it. You will have to figure them out for yourself or ask for help. Teachers and experienced dancers can coach you through these transformations by being a source of information and emotional support. So, if right now tango feels like therapy to you, congratulations! It’s a powerful catalyst for personal growth because sometimes, in tango as in life, it takes two to know thyself.

RUSSIANGERMANCHINESE

August 2, 2019

Why women lead and men follow

Recently, at a tango festival in Saint-Petersburg (Russia), the organiser pushed two women dancing together off the dancefloor in the middle of a song. He insisted that his event honored the “traditions” and did not allow same-sex dance couples. This was not his only attempt to stop women from leading that night. One of them described the incident on Facebook, prompting a broad resonance. Russian tango teacher Viacheslav Ivanov launched a hashtag #tango4all and dancers everywhere showed support by posting pictures of themselves in same-sex or reversed-sex dance couples. (The event in question took place in 2019).

The organising school issued a statement saying that true tango is about men leading and women following and that in their events they will tolerate no exceptions. The timing could not be more ironic. The incident happened on the International Day of Tango, while on the other side of the world, in Buenos Aires, Argentina, motherland of all tango traditions, female leaders were competing in the Tango Championship for Women in Leading Role. So, why do women lead and men follow? And how is this still an issue?

A male leader and a female follower as a basic configuration is common for all couple dances of the Western world. At its source, a couple dance is exactly what it sounds: a dance to find a couple. In the past, patriarchal cultures controlled gender relations by strict societal rules from which couple dances offered a welcome temporary escape. People could court the opposite gender and find a prospective life or love partner through a ritualised social activity. Men being the dominant gender, their role on the dancefloor was to sweep the woman off her feet. Dance etiquette was put in place to contain this dangerously erotic activity. For a long time, roles and genders were fused and role swapping only happened for practice purposes.

As a dance, tango started with a bad reputation, considered obscene and confined to brothels, lower class venues and mafiosi gatherings, where men would buy a token to have a tanda with the girl of their choice. When Parisians heard about it, they thought “oh, a dirty dance, how delightful!” and set in motion a process that would popularise tango across the world. In the subsequent years both tango music and the dance would undergo a rebranding from sleazy to respectable (including rewriting the obscene lyrics). It would keep, though, its flair of provocative sensuality, of two strangers meeting for a tight embrace and possibly something more than an ocho cortado

In every couple dance the emphasis, at some point, shifts from “couple” to “dance”. The dance becomes complex enough to be interesting as an art form, as a means of expression rather than dating ground. The roles come somewhat unstuck from gender. This is often the moment when women start outnumbering men. Tango is still both about dance and coupling, but each one of us lives the two components in a very personal way at every particular moment. Many people start tango in hopes of meeting a new love, only to fall in love with a new dance. Also, tango is a tough skill to master and unless you are at least a little bit interested in it as a dance, frankly, there are easier ways to date.

Each role comes with a gendered history. Followers dance on high heels not because they follow, but because women’s party attire traditionally included high heels. Many moves are the way they are because of the initial lack of leg freedom for women in skirts and no such restrictions for men. When around the turn of this century women started wearing pants to milongas, the dance changed too. The wild, loose-legged, fearless nuevo follower was born, with her knockout boleos and whiplike ganchos, moves previously reserved to leaders. The man dumped the suit in favor of baggy pants and a pair of running shoes, and his game became less about seduction and more about freedom, about how far you could stretch the embrace without flying off into outer space. The vocabulary of moves was now almost entirely similar between the two roles. Nuevo, of all styles, was the one to let go of the idea of men necessarily leading and women necessarily following. 

Queer tango was born in the same period, starting in Northern Europe and spreading into Argentina and other countries. This movement was about creating a space for people eager to detach themselves from the dominant heteronormative view of tango. They could get together and dance, however and with whomever, without being banned, ridiculed or stigmatised. Queer tango showed us that this dance held within itself possibilities of connection and expression irrespective of gender and sexual orientation, but also that being gay or lesbian and tango were not mutually exclusive. 

When salon and milonguero became the dominant styles again, we witnessed the return of the tailor-made pants and proper tango shoes for male leaders, and of a tightly hugging slit dress for the female followers. The embrace closed again, making the couple’s connection more about depth and less about amplitude. It was a return to the roots, in every way, but at the same time an integration of the previous phase. By now the follower had firmly assumed her role as an equal partner with sophisticated vocabulary. Clearly gender-defined in their appearance, these styles made role swapping less of an obvious choice, but women wanting to lead and men wanting to follow was already too much of a commonplace to be reversed.

I started to lead within the first two years of my tango life. At that time I was living in The Netherlands, a culture of “live and let live”, so around me I saw men lead women, men lead other men, women lead men and women. Bored as I was to wait for interesting leaders to become available and desperate to move to my favorite music, I figured my follower girlfriends would rather dance with a beginning leader like me than not dance at all. I was right. Once I tried it, I loved how it felt. The creativity, the complexity, the responsibility, the feeling of the other person trusting you, the way you channel your musicality through somebody else’s body. I have been leading regularly ever since. 

My leading skills became an important part of my profession. The fact that I am an experienced leader as well as an expert follower, makes a tremendous difference. I can teach any role to any person. I tell leaders how their lead should feel, make them feel what I mean and also tell them what to do. I lead followers and assess both their individual technique and their following skills from inside the embrace. Most professionals I know have a decent level of expertise in both roles. In general, the higher your competence level, the more you see them exactly for what they are: just roles. 

As a woman who sometimes leads, I have dealt with various reactions. Like that time in Argentina, when a chubby old milonguero with too much champagne in his system tried to insert himself between me and my follower. Men catcalling me and my follower from the tables. That guy who said: “Would you please dance this tanda with me? You already danced with my girlfriend!” A woman flinging herself into my arms and dragging me onto the dancefloor with the words “I heard you led, here, lead me!” Or the time a group of male friends half-jokingly scolded me because I had the audacity to invite a hot visiting follower before they each had a go. 

There are three types of negative reactions dancers get from their environment when they start learning the opposite role. Females are told that “leading too much ruins a good follower”. Males are told “why insist on dancing with other men when so many women are sitting down.” And both at some point confront the statement that “tango is a dance of passion in which a man leads and a woman follows, forever and ever, amen.” 

The first belief says that if a woman learned to lead, she would become bossy and rigid in her following, stop listening to her leader, impose her musical interpretation or simply get confused. Also, she might like it and pose a threat to male leaders if good followers enjoyed dancing with her. What this belief reveals, first, is a very unflattering view of a woman’s ability to learn something new and still keep it together. Also, that leading is thought to be a tougher skill than following, challenging to the point of completely confusing or “converting” a fragile female. And most importantly, it reveals a view on leading itself as authoritarian domination, in which the leader commands and the follower obeys. 

There are several reasons why we tend to think that leading is more difficult. On one hand, our cultural and political landscapes are still largely male-dominated, meaning that everything men do is by default regarded as tougher, more illustrious and less accessible to the other gender. On the other hand, learning how to lead in tango is really difficult for ANY beginner (male or female) in the first two years of study. Following feels easier in those first years, for reasons I described in another article. It becomes really tough once you start focusing on your technique. 

Leading is also more obviously difficult because of navigation, whereas the intricacies of following often hide in little but critical details. Ironically, in many cultures, men are regarded as less gifted for dance except if they are gay, a stigma that can hold a man back from even trying. The male gender is underrepresented in almost any dance class. In tango, the hardships of the first two years scare many men away. When for every advanced male leader we then have several really good female followers, we regard the first one as precious and take the latter for granted. 

There is also the issue of high heels. Any female follower knows that dancing on flat shoes feels nothing like dancing on heels. Not only your sense of balance, the sense of your entire body changes on high heels. When men follow, they very rarely do so on heels, so a male follower might get the impression that following is less difficult than it seems. Especially if he struggles with his role as a leader, following might feel like a relief, a giving away of responsibility, of going nicely with the flow. I know men who are appallingly bad at following, yet believe they’ve mastered it and insist I lead them. For a woman to lead comfortably, she would need to change into flat shoes. So role swapping is something men seem to be able to do just like that, but women need to premeditate. I only lead occasionally, therefore rarely have flat shoes with me. When d’Arienzo calls, I would lead on heels. Trust me, it’s not for the faint of the heart.  

The domination model, paradoxically, stands in complete opposition to how we teach tango in this day and age. Teachers of my generation and younger see the interaction between roles as a collaboration of equal partners, with a set of shared responsibilities such as embrace, music and dynamic, and some specific ones. The domination model is a reflection of an archaic, neither truthful nor intelligent understanding of tango, but one that we still encounter here and there. In the domination model a follower who starts to dance more actively is getting dangerously out of control. In a collaboration model, the more a follower is actively participating, the happier the leader will feel. Being intimately familiar with the opposite role becomes a huge advantage. 

The only way a follower can go “bad” in the collaboration model is if she can’t quickly switch back to the other role. This could also happen to a leader who follows… right? But has anyone ever told a man that his lead will go stale if he follows too much? There is a wide consensus that understanding the follower’s role does amazing things to a man’s leading. Again, this view evokes the idea that leading is more important, more burdened with responsibilities. Also, that a male leader cannot possibly “unlearn” how to lead. Tango history of men practicing with other men before hitting on the girls, plays an important role in this assumption. Therefore, men are not only “allowed”, in public opinion, to practice following, they are encouraged to do so, but only as far as it serves them to know their followers better. In other words, for practice purposes only.

The moment a male leader falls in love with following for the way it feels and starts inviting other men in milongas, public opinion performs a radical flip. The environment insists on reminding him that we only have “a few good men” against all those followers sitting around getting dusty and sour. A heterosexual man who loves dancing with other men, following or leading, has some explaining to do, including to himself. If people can brush off two women dancing together as girls having fun while the good men are taken, two men enjoying a dance together in close embrace can make people uneasy. 

The more homophobia of the surrounding culture imprints itself on a tango community, the less same-sex dancing will be tolerated outside of practice setting. The fact that the incident happened in Russia, comes as no surprise. But even in cultures that pride themselves as open and tolerant, we see female leaders as badass and male followers as cute. We still find “masculinity” to be an upward promotion for a woman but “femininity” degrading for a man. For both genders, we stress that role swapping is either for study or fooling around, suppressing every possibility of a deep, serious human connection or same-sex attraction. 

Yet, you see, that possibility is there, every time. When you dance with another person, leading feels different from following in certain ways, but very similar on another, deeper level. It is about closeness. About protecting and trusting the other. About togetherness in fast movements that feels like flying. Conversations in whisper. Sudden moments of complete silence and the joined intake of breath on the rise of the musical wave. The crossing of boundaries, the vulnerability, the mistakes, the joy, the truth, the here and now.

The question, to me, is not whether role swapping somehow damages or dilutes the essence of tango. Non-conforming role interpretation has been in tango from the start and has only grown in popularity. The real question is what its existence says about tango as a dance. And to me, it says that tango has evolved spectacularly, shedding the erotic attraction as a necessary condition in favor of a more encompassing human connection through music and movement. A connection that can harbor erotic attraction of any kind or none at all, and still be true.

Insisting that role reversal is a “lesser” experience is not traditionalism, it is intolerance to a different way of living tango. When you push same-sex couples off the dancefloor, you are not defending some sacred essence, you are being an ass. When a woman leader impresses you because she is a woman, not because she is a good leader, it’s misogyny. If you constantly ridicule men dancing together, it’s homophobia. It’s not about tango, tango does not need us to defend it. Tango wants our authentic desire to connect to another human being. And to me it means that now and then, during a milonga, I will get up to lead another woman to my favorite d’Arienzo while still wearing my favorite heels.

RUSSIANFRENCH

January 3, 2019

Why sometimes you learn nothing from the best teachers

Learning to dance tango is rarely a straightforward process. This has been my own experience and I have seen this to be the experience of many people I meet. Hardly anybody would deny that tango is a difficult dance and that mastering it on a satisfactory level can take several years. Also, the process is often messy, frustrating and slow.

When you come to a beginner class, life is wonderful. Your teachers do their best to familiarise you with your role and to cultivate a basic sensitivity to music, movement and the social side of tango. You feel like in every class new doors open to an unexplored and fascinating universe. Towards the end of the first year you feel like you are already a pretty good dancer and if tango got you in a strong grip, you sign up for the next course.

It is usually during your second (or third) year that the truth becomes painfully obvious: you are anything but a good dancer YET. Sometimes you feel like you are not progressing as fast as before or not at all. You feel that your teachers are not teaching you the right stuff, not the right way or not fast enough. Dancers you used to look up to no longer seem impressive. At the same time you notice the truly good dancers around you and wish to be like them, to dance with them, to be accepted as one of them. This feeling of profound dissatisfaction is the start of your very own “hero’s journey” in tango: your quest of becoming a better dancer.

At that point you might stay with your teachers but often you will start looking for a fresh role model. You take workshops with renown couples, watch YouTube videos until your eyes hurt and try to find a steady partner to practice with. You look for what you can call “YOUR teacher”: one able to help you to visibly and tangibly improve your dance. You may take your first private class, craving personalised attention. You might end up going from teacher to teacher, gradually losing hope, as confusions pile up with no results in sight. And sometimes you are lucky enough to meet a person whose teaching suddenly makes all the sense in the world. Your body starts doing things in a way it has never done before. Your dance partners compliment you on the improvements and you feel like you have finally found your personal holy grail. 

How come that are you able to improve with some teachers and not with others, who seem just as competent? Which part of the learning process depends on you as a student and which on your teacher? And how can you recognise that your teacher-student relationship is going nowhere?

To understand this I propose a simple model. In a teacher-student learning dynamic we can identify three important parts: GOALS, STRUCTURE and PROCESS. Goals are about the desired results, what it is you want to learn in a given period of time. Structure is about how to get there, the kind of tools and exercises necessary to reach your goals. Process is about how you and your teacher engage in a live interaction from moment to moment. 

One of the reasons we are happy and excited as beginners is because our goals are defined entirely by somebody else. We fully trust our teachers to know what we should learn, when and how fast. Not having clear goals, everything we learn is new and rewarding. There is very little pressure. The proverbial small steps we take in the beginning of this journey seem huge compared to those of an experienced dancer. The situation changes, however, once you decide to improve your dance and start thinking about your own goals. It is important at that point that you do not stick to long term goals alone. If you tell yourself “I want to dance like the tango star X or Z who already has twenty years of experience”, consider it a DIRECTION, not a goal, and instead define some clear short term goals that will take you in that direction ONE STEP at a time. Too general a goal will frustrate and discourage you. If you wish to get the perfect technique, guess what: it’s a lifetime endeavor. But it is possible to get a better balance, for example, or a more comfortable embrace within only a couple of months.

Before any learning can take place, the teacher and the student must agree on a common goal (or goals). In group classes and workshops it happens implicitly: the class description already conveys, in broad strokes, what you will learn. In private classes the goals have to be talked through and agreed upon explicitly, in detail, or the learning will not be effective. If the student has no clear goals, the teacher can suggest them based on the student’s current level of competence and the desired direction. The goals can be as simple as learning to pivot or as complex as improvising to different energies in the music. It doesn’t matter, as long as the goals are understood and shared. They will depend on where the student wants to go but most importantly, where the student is RIGHT NOW. Some goals will have to be broken down in secondary goals in order to proceed step by step. If you want to learn to improvise to different orchestras but still have trouble identifying the strong beat, you will have to start with that.

The goals have to be shared enthusiastically by the teacher and the student. For example, I am the kind of teacher who is interested in in-depth teaching of technique, among other things. To me, working with a student who is not interested in improving technique would feel like a waste of time. I would send this student to a different teacher. It is important that the students decide what they want but it is just as important that teachers are clear about what THEY love teaching most: they tend to do it better than everything else. Often teachers feel like they have to cater to their students in every way in order to keep the business running. However, knowing what you love to teach will not only make you a better, more enthusiastic teacher, but will also help students who are interested in that particular subject find you sooner. 

As a student, it is important that you understand your goals and trust that you can achieve them. The next step is for the teacher to come up with a STRUCTURE (a set of exercises, a practicing routine) that will help you reach them. This part depends on the teacher’s competence and experience. There is also a responsibility in this for you as a student: you will have to establish a study structure for yourself, a regular practice of some sort. Only studying in classes rarely improves your dance in a lasting way. Whatever you learn in that one-and-a-half hour or less, evaporates from your mind and body if you don’t reproduce it again and again. This is why a part of your study structure should be as mundane as taking notes: simply to recall what you have learnt. The fact that we are studying movement doesn’t mean we shouldn’t use our analytical mind. 

Things go wrong on the level of STRUCTURE when the goals are not defined or the teacher has no clear understanding of the student’s level of skill. Then the material tends to be either too easy or impossibly difficult no matter how you try. If the exercises are too easy, the goals must be adjusted and the bar raised or you will leave the class feeling “well, it’s good to repeat things but I don’t feel like I learned anything”. When the bar is set too high, the goals need to be broken down in smaller ones. In an effective learning process there always has to be a challenge, but the material should not be entirely out of your reach. 

When talking about “exercise” I do not mean literally the kind of movement that you are supposed to do, I am talking about HOW. A walk is a walk, yet we do not teach it to beginners the same way we teach it to advanced dancers. You will be asked to polish your walk at every stage but each time with a different focus. If for a beginner student it is sometimes enough to walk on the beat, an advanced student has to focus on how to put down the foot, to push with the standing leg, to project the free leg, to stay connected in the embrace and so on. When judging how easy or difficult an exercise is for you, ask yourself what is its main focus. Ideally, the exercise should feel difficult, but doable if you apply consistent effort. 

Of course, if you don’t pay attention, if you don’t try to get the point or are under the impression of knowing it all already, the exercises will always seem either too easy or too difficult. And this is where we touch upon the importance of a good PROCESS. First thing to understand about it is that it requires everybody’s full engagement. If you come to a class expecting the teacher to perform magic on you, you are not engaging in the process. And if you aren’t, then no amount of goals, structures, money, famous people, yoga classes or expensive shoes will help you. Engaging in the process for a student means, first of all, to understand and share the goals; second, to follow and trust the structure; and third, to be fully present, to take in the information, to do what you are told to do, to pay attention, to give and accept feedback. 

There are a couple of things that can derail the process on the side of the student. The first, as I mentioned, is not to engage at all, to think that being in a class will somehow magically transform you into a better dancer. Another is to judge yourself too harshly, raising your level of stress to the point of becoming completely discouraged. This is not an easy thing to deal with. We come to tango mostly at an adult age, when we already consider ourselves experts in many areas of life. Accepting to be again literally in beginner’s shoes is a dire psychological blow to our self-image. It is especially hard on male leaders, used as they are, in our masculinity-obsessed society, to the constant pressure of being the best, the strongest and the most competent at all times. (It is not easy for women either, but in different ways). Sometimes it is  hard to silence your inner critic. Yet to be fully present means to be completely aware, paying attention and keeping your mind occupied with the task, not nursing your ego. 

Engaging in the process for the teacher means that s/he gives you regular feedback about how you are doing and how to do things differently. “Process” implies interaction, an exchange between people. It means responding both to the student’s struggles and his or her successes. Not only to point out what is wrong, but to give tools to correct it and, equally important, to point out when it is RIGHT. Harsh judgement on the part of the teacher can result in too much stress for the student, but so can total indifference. An engaged process requires a validation loop. If your teacher does not provide such a loop, ask for it.

If the teacher simply tells you how s/he does things, without checking whether you understand it, without watching or correcting you, then it is a LECTURE, not an engaged process. If your level of understanding is close to that of your teacher then a lecture is fine, it could be just what you need. If the gap in understanding and experience is too wide, however, then a lecture will leave you with a heap of mystifying statements and a sense of failure. Ideally, the teacher should make an effort to present the material in THE WAY YOU CAN UNDERSTAND IT and to do so, the teacher needs to assess your current skills. 

Group classes are marked with levels (or sometimes the number of years of experience) in a desperate attempt to shorten the time that the teachers need for such an assessment and to be able to define a goal and a structure fit for all. In a private class this is what the teacher should start with: for example, by dancing with you or by making you do a test exercise. If you come to a private class and the teacher does not take some moments to do a general assessment of your level of skill, the process will not be effective. You might get exercises that are not reflective of your goals, too easy or too difficult. You might not understand what the teacher is telling you because you are not speaking the same “language”. This is an often occuring painful paradox in tango: you go for a class with an amazing dancer, you feel that this person is brilliant in, oh, so many ways, you try to do what you are told and at the end leave the class feeling lost and frustrated. When this happens, it means that something has gone wrong in the process.   

If a teacher tells a group of advanced students to ground themselves, they know what it means and  do it correctly. They have previously gone through a process of learning what exactly “grounding” means. If a teacher told this to a group of beginners, they would look down in amazement, wondering how their feet have managed to leave the ground without them noticing. Before you can teach people to do anything, you have to understand their current idea on the subject – or the absence thereof. The reason so many students leave so many classes with profound statements such as “lead her by intention”, “maintain the connection” and “find the floor” stuck in their head without a clue of what it means, is because the teachers do not explain it in a way that the students can understand and reproduce. In other words, because the teachers, no matter how brilliant, DO NOT FULLY ENGAGE IN THE PROCESS. 

It might look as if I am suggesting that the effort of making the student understand something is entirely the teacher’s responsibility. It is not. To successfully transmit an idea both parties need to be CONNECTED on some common level of understanding. Now, some teachers are opposed to the idea of having to explain it to you in YOUR terms because they believe it is your job to crawl up the thorny path to enlightenment just like they did when they were “your age”. And for some (very few) students it works. There are people in tango who are so motivated and obsessed, they will walk the world around twice to get the understanding they need. They usually become really good and many of them start teaching. Yet we have to remind ourselves, as teachers, that not everybody is a jedi. Very few people actually are. If, as a teacher, you have disdain for the (majority of) students who need the material to be clearly explained, and explained again, who will stagnate, doubt themselves and give up as soon as something seems too fuzzy and too difficult, then you should limit your audience to those you wish to coach for tango olympics. To an ordinary person, who dances tango as a hobby, your teaching might be ineffective at best and traumatising at worst. If you want to teach any person, you have to accept that not everyone learns the same way, not everyone has the same capacity or motivation and not everyone is a future tango wizard.

For both the teacher and the student to be fully engaged in a process, they need not only motivation, but also physical and mental resources. If in an event a teacher gives four workshops a day with a huge number of students of very mixed levels, all the while worn down by the fatigue of performing, travel and late milongas, then for such a teacher to fully engage in a process with every student will be next to impossible. In this case, a student will have to put in a lot of effort, ask for personal attention when possible and be patient. Some teachers favour the lecturing style because of their lack of energy in such a setting, meaning that only the most advanced dancers will truly get the point (others will leave mystified, but frustrated). There exists a conspiracy theory that tango teachers do not like to reveal all their secrets in order to remain superior and desirable, and maybe it is true in some cases. In my experience, however, the unwillingness of a teacher to fully engage in the process is due either to a lack of teaching skills, lack of motivation, lack of resources or all of the above combined. 

If you want to significantly improve your dance and have found teachers that you like, then I suggest you keep a checklist. Frequently ask yourself, how clear are you about your short term goals? Are you in agreement on them with your teacher? Does practicing clarify things for you or only makes it more confusing? Don’t be afraid to tell your teachers that you don’t understand something. Remember that it’s the teacher’s JOB to explain things to you in a helpful way. Manage your challenge level wisely: let it be difficult but not totally overwhelming. An effective learning process brings more clarity to the subject and obvious results in your dance: obvious not only to you, but to your teacher and to your dance partners. If after a while this is not the case, it does not necessarily mean the teacher is not right for you but it does mean that there is a glitch in the process.

You also need to remind yourself that, while your teacher must take the responsibility of teaching you, you must take the responsibility of learning. There is no magic, just understanding and practice. Learning is not something you get, it is something you do. And the more you do it, the more successful you become. This path is yours to walk and it can feel very lonely at times, but trust me: the further you go, the greater the view.

RUSSIANPOLISH

January 9, 2018

Why tango is a difficult dance

As long as I dance, I hear two messages. “Tango is really difficult. It takes ten years just to learn how to walk.” And “Tango is simple! Just embrace your partner and walk in the music.” As far as learning is concerned, the first definitely rings true. Every student told me that tango is hard and my own experience confirms it. If tango were simple, the worldwide tango community would look very different. For one, it would be much bigger. More beginners would stay past their first year (nowadays it’s between ten and twenty percent) and the number of advanced dancers would be higher, with less of a skill gap between various levels and therefore less suffering because such and such doesn’t dance with us. Obviously, this is not the case.

Of course, mastering any dance at a high level is difficult. If it weren’t, it wouldn’t be interesting. Developing complex skills, especially learning complex movement patterns, is fantastic for our brain. Dancing, it turns out, lowers the risk of dementia. Imagine what learning a complex dance does to your brain! Tough skills open doors to new amazing experiences and humans, on the overall, like it difficult. But we are also lazy bastards. We want it all and we want it now. 

When people come to tango from dances like salsa, swing or forro, they tell me that tango is to those dances what chess is to a party board game. It represents an entirely different level of complexity. It is a dance you cannot just “step into”. As a beginner your first milonga probably scared you. It takes between three months and one year before you can go out and actually be of any use to anybody on the dancefloor. With other beginners you feel hopelessly lost and experienced dancers don’t dance with you. If you are a young woman, certain male dancers would gladly entertain you, even insist on teaching you a few steps, but not necessarily because you are a promising dancer. You can shorten this initial period if you have prior dance experience or invest a lot of effort. But no matter how hard you try, learning tango takes a really long time for a dance that is supposed to be, you know, leisure. And the more you progress, the more you realise how much there is still to learn. 

So what makes tango so difficult? 

Without pretending to be exhaustive, I will highlight several factors. The first might not be the one to immediately cross your mind yet it is essential and sets tango apart from many other dances. It’s NAVIGATION. In tango you have to actively move around the room all the time. Couples do not each have their own static “bubble”. It’s more like a highway. I have always believed, from my experience with solo dances, that we underestimate just how hard it is for humans to actively move around a large space while dancing complex movement patterns. And here we have to do it together with another person! The walk is the pillar element because it allows the couple to move around the dancefloor quickly. Yet, despite everyone proclaiming that “tango is all about the walk”, you will hardly see any couple really walk in a milonga. Why is that? Several reasons. First, because of congestion: if one couple does not move, the couples behind it can’t move either or start to overtake, whipping the dancefloor into a mess. Second, in tango we have many complicated figures and when we dance complicated stuff, we tend to remain in one spot. Nowadays tango seems to be much more about turning than walking. And last but not least, walking comfortably in close embrace is surprisingly difficult. Therefore, once on the dancefloor, leaders prefer to dance all kinds of other moves, making bumpy traffic problem number one of every crowded event. 

The second essential complication in tango is the EMBRACE. It is one thing to lead or follow another person while loosely holding one or both hands and a totally different matter to dance in close embrace, chest, hands and head touching, arms enveloping the other person. In some moves your feet, thighs and ankles will touch as well. Close embrace is the main reason why learning to walk smoothly together is so hard. As a leader you have to advance with another person literally stuck to your chest, blocking your way, moving backwards blindly, while you try not to step on her (or his) toes. As a follower you have a person walking through you, taking you somewhere you cannot see, while you try to move away in time not to get knocked over backwards or stepped upon. In normal life the one who follows is behind the one who leads, right? Not in tango. I always enjoy the look on the leaders’ faces when I tell them in tango they are the real followers.

The technical difficulty of dancing in an embrace is to be calm in the upper body but dynamic in the legs. This combination of a relaxed, toned upper body and active strong legs requires a degree of control from your nervous system that takes a long time to develop. This is true for any dance, by the way. At first you will be either tense all over or way too relaxed, and in both states your body will be reluctant to move. Next to close we also have an open embrace, allowing us to dance larger movements. Each type of embrace comes with its own set of possibilities, but also with its own set of difficulties. Some things are harder to do in close embrace, such as simply walking in line. Other things are more difficult to communicate in open embrace, because you have no upper body contact and feel less stable, especially the follower.

Close embrace not only brings with it a lot of technical challenges, it is complicated in terms of human factor. Apart from being often highly uncomfortable, close embrace can be overwhelmingly intimate. In Western cultures we rarely hug strangers for a prolonged period of time. We even rarely hug people we know well, for that matter. For people who come into tango with a history of physical or sexual abuse, close embrace can trigger debilitating anxiety. Yet, close embrace is why we adore tango. It is what gives us our most intense experiences. The reason we tend to be selective about with whom we dance is largely due to the subtleties and the intensity of close embrace. 

By themselves, navigation and embrace wouldn’t be so challenging if tango did not have a remarkably vast VOCABULARY of steps. Back in the old days, when it didn’t, people could say “tango is all about the walk!” and not fool themselves. Nowadays, when studying or practicing you will notice – and be amazed by – just how endless the possibilities are. Not only do we have a vast vocabulary, we are supposed to IMPROVISE with it in the moment. Not surprisingly, in a milonga we end up repeating the same figures over and over again because in order to use this vast vocabulary real-time you have to practice it thoroughly first. And did I mention we were lazy bastards? 

Next, you have the difficulties of each role in the CONNECTION. Because of the enveloping embrace, partners must communicate by subtle messages. Subtle communication takes a long time to finetune, especially if you want to be able to communicate with a large variety of partners. A good lead is invisible and good following is instantaneous, hesitation-free, like inspiration. The better the lead, the more dancing feels as if the movements were generated directly inside the follower’s body. Good following feels like reading the leader’s mind. At a high level partners become so trained to react to the tiniest of intentions that the communication seems to happen telepathically. Show that level of connection to beginners and they will think it’s magic. And frankly, it is. 

Technically, each role has its specific challenges. By “TECHNIQUE” I mean each partner’s own dancing (posture, balance, pivoting, aesthetics). While the leader’s main challenges are leading and navigating, nowadays the follower’s role tends to be more difficult technically. It was not always the case, but in the last decade the follower’s vocabulary evolved dramatically. Follower’s technique is about a very active use of the free leg and lots of pivoting at all times, all of this on high heels. Also, the follower’s movement has to look aesthetical at any moment, which is a huge technical challenge. Following well and dancing beautifully are two distinct skills. An additional complication is that the follower does not choose the vocabulary. Leaders can decide to lead difficult stuff or not, to dance difficult stuff themselves or not, to care about aesthetics or just concentrate on the “driving”. As a follower, you take what you get and you make the best of it. This is why more followers than leaders take technique classes and if you think it’s just to polish their adornos, you obviously never tried to dance back ochos on high heels without a partner or a wall. 

To complicate things further we have GENRES: tango, milonga and waltz. Each comes with its own history, rhythmical patterns and specific vocabulary. Next, we have STYLES: salon, milonguero, nuevo and somewhat separately tango escenario, or stage tango. The latter gets more attention nowadays and inevitably starts to influence the way professionals perform in tango events, adding spectacular vocabulary into the fabric of social improvisation. Taken apart, each style can be seen as an array of preferred figures and specific technical and aesthetic parameters. Sometimes what is “not done” in one style serves as a basic principle in another. At the same time styles are not strictly defined, because, like tango, they have evolved organically. Most people dance what I call “fusion”, mixing steps and elements from various sources. Stylistic variations add enormous depth to tango, but make it harder to grasp, especially when you are a beginner. If on top of that certain teachers proclaim that their style is the only true tango, it all becomes terribly confusing. 

If the above wasn’t enough trouble, we have the MUSIC. Despite its simple rhythmic structure, tango is rich in texture and built as a narrative, a story composed of phrases, with an introduction, some rising tension, a climax and a conclusion. Tango music captures your attention in a powerful way, richly syncopated, lavishly adorned with accents, incredibly versatile, presenting the full emotional range from tragedy to happiness, each orquestra adding its own distinct sound and colouring. You are not supposed to dance a dramatic Pugliese the same way you would a light, sunny Fresedo. Like vocabulary, musical interpretation begins with very basic concepts like stepping on the beat and moves up to complex things such as interpreting the narrative line or expressing the energetic quality of the moment: tender vs strong, light vs heavy, flowing vs bouncy. This means that in tango you have to develop your musical hearing and interpretational skills as a dancer. Did I mention tango is fantastic for your brain?

As you see, our attention in dance runs along four channels: music, our own movement, communication with our partner and navigation in space. And on all those four channels things get REALLY COMPLICATED. Focusing on all of them simultaneously is a huge cognitive task. The way our brain functions makes it so that humans can hold only a very limited amount of elements in their working memory at the same time (also called “short term memory”). The more something is new, the more cognitive resources it will require. The whole purpose of practicing is to lower the cognitive load when dancing. Once a movement is familiar, it no longer uses so much of the working memory and the focus can expand to include something else. 

Communication is the primary channel, for if this does not work, everything else is of little use. With beginners we therefore try to establish a basis for partner communication first, in other words, that which makes tango tango. We insist that leaders concentrate on making steps and taking decisions, or else nothing happens, and that followers concentrate on listening and following exactly what is being led, so leaders can have direct feedback of their actions. If we stress followers with too many technical details in an early stage, they would not be able to concentrate on following. The same way we cannot demand that beginning leaders pay close attention to music, if that stops them from communicating with the partner. 

When some basic vocabulary is in place and the connection in the couple is working, we can enlarge our students’ focus to include technique: balance, posture, aesthetics. Eventually we bring their attention to the music and cultivate a sense of flow on the dancefloor. For beginners with prior dance experience it is easier to include music and their own movement already at an early stage because they come with a developed body awareness and are able to follow the rhythm. Beginners with experience in contact improvisation, couple dances or martial arts usually have an easier time with communication. Everybody will run into problems with navigation, though, simply because the other channels take up so much of our attention. 

As teachers we keep oscillating between the four channels, directing our students’ attention to one or two things at a time. If the cognitive load is too high, the students will get overwhelmed and give up. Therefore we have to slice the material in layers and to take people through stages progressively. The more difficult a dance is, the more stages there will be and the longer it will take. Often, in order to pass through a stage successfully, teachers have to pretend the next stage doesn’t exist. For example, we insist that beginners learn to step in three clear directions: front, back and side. Every time they make a diagonal or a curved step, we tell them they cannot do that. Once the students are capable of making clear lines with these three directions, we say: now you also have diagonal and curved steps. In another example we tell leaders at first to never lead with their arms. Once they have an understanding of the embrace as a frame and a space, their arms well connected to the upper body, we show them which movements they can and have to, actually, lead with their arms.

This phenomenon produces frequent moments of astonishment “And I thought I knew everything!” and is related to how humans develop control of their motor functions. If we let students walk in every possible direction from the beginning, they will be zigzagging all over the place like a drunk crowd on a night out. They first have to learn the basics of a precise, clean walk. To deviate gracefully you have to control the primary directions. To disconnect something effectively, you must have everything connected first. In that sense tango is full of paradoxes because literally everything is possible. One teacher may tell you things in exact opposition to what another teacher told you. Many people stop studying after a couple of years because they simply cannot handle this reality. So, if right now you feel like you have to learn everything all over again, don’t despair. Have a glass of champagne: you just got to the next stage. 

Accepting that tango is difficult in general means that, if it is difficult for you in particular, you are perfectly NORMAL. It is difficult for all of us. We can safely say that tango is not for everybody and not be condescending. It also explains why so few people make it into their second year, why truly advanced dancers are a small minority and why in every community there will always be some kind of hierarchy based on how people dance, despite our efforts to be sociable. So, when someone declines to dance with you because of a large skill gap, remember this person has a point. You have the right to decline a dance for that reason, too. 

We can deny tango its complexity, nostalgic of the days bygone, but who are we kidding? Every art form, tango included, always moves towards a higher complexity, because in art stagnation means disappearance. Yet, paradoxically, the statement “tango is simple, just embrace your partner and walk to the music” is also still true. Only it’s not about the learning, it’s about the dancing. Just because tango is complex, your dance doesn’t have to be. Tango is a language and like a language, it can yield both poetry and small talk, silly jokes and deep thoughts. Here you might expect some encouraging statement from my part, something about taking the challenge and persevering in your efforts, but in truth, it is all up to you. I will say just this: tango growing more and more complicated means that this dance is still vibrantly, passionately, gloriously alive.

POLISHRUSSIAN

October 18, 2018

Why we believe that dancing with better dancers makes us dance better

There exists a belief in the tango community that sounds something like this: “If I get to dance with better dancers, my dancing will improve much faster than if I only dance with people of my own level.” Or like this: “Experienced dancers should dance more with beginners. How are these poor souls supposed to learn if they are stuck with other beginners?” A female student leaving a class with the words: “Every new follower should be given a very good leader from the start! If we wait for these men here to become decent dancers, we will be waiting forever!” 

The learning curve phenomenon seems to back it up. For beginning leaders this curve is rarely the same as for beginning followers. Leaders generally have a harder time learning and getting dances in the first couple of years. A beginning (female) follower, on the other hand, if she is a promising dancer, plus young and good looking, will be noticed by more experienced (male) leaders. How often have you heard the story: “Oh, when she started, all the better dancers wanted to dance with her, so OBVIOUSLY she became very good very quickly.” It can happen with a new male leader, too. Being young and good looking helps, but the key word here is “promising”. It means that this person already has something worthwhile to offer, such as an eagerness to learn. 

The notion that if only expert dancers agreed to dance with you, your tango skills would skyrocket is so widespread that it regularly puts me (the “expert dancer”) in comical situations. I had a total stranger once come up to me in a milonga and say: “I have only been dancing for a month, but I figured that dancing with a teacher would be very beneficial for me.” I have been rebuked for refusing invitations: “You have some nerve, you know. How are these guys supposed to become good dancers if you won’t even look at them?” And consider how often you hear the following remark: “You know, when YOU were a beginner, better dancers danced with you because they wanted to help you.” To which, by the way, I always reply: “They danced with me because I was young, pretty and with a background in dance.”

So is it true that dancing with better dancers makes you a better dancer? 

First, let’s define what we mean by “better”. When talking about levels in tango, we are forced to over-simplify things in order to categorise, but in reality there are many variables that constitute someone’s appeal as a dancer. It is never the technique alone, nor the number of steps, nor the ability to lead or follow, nor the musicality. It is all of those things combined. We can at best imagine a dancer’s skill as a DJ mixing table with several sliders. Each slider represents a sub-skill or an ability that can be at a higher or a lower position, depending on this person’s experience, talent and dedication. I can think of several sliders: technique, vocabulary, communication (leading/following), embrace, musicality, navigation, social skills. To this we should add, to further complicate things, the human factor. It is partially inherent and partially learnt in order to fit into the tango community. In many situations, the human factor will be decisive in the choice of partner DESPITE good or bad skills in other areas. 

To think that we can categorise each dancer based on the vocabulary or the number of years in tango would be naive. It would also be naive to categorise dancers by human factor alone. We know that reality is more complex. You have probably met people who dance a lot of complicated steps and all of them badly. You have surely met dancers with a modest vocabulary but a great embrace or musicality. When we speak of “better dancers” or “a higher level”, we therefore have to bear in mind that it encompasses an array of skills, not all of them necessarily in equally high positions on the mixing table. Choosing to dance with a certain person is always a package deal. We will easily accept some flaws if they are compensated by finer qualities.

This said, let’s look into what happens when you dance with a partner whose sliders are – for the sake of the argument – all in much higher positions than yours. If you are a follower dancing with a much more expert leader (and you are not stressed out of your mind by this situation), your movements will feel more effortless, more “correct”, you will feel more balanced, easily musical and possibly dance steps you have never danced before. An experienced leader will create the optimal conditions for your movement to be as good as you can make it. The goal of a precise lead is exactly that: to PROVOKE a well-done movement. Whether the follower is able to dance this movement well, is another matter. The leader will also avoid leading you the steps that would totally overwhelm you. If you have problems with balance or pivoting, you will either feel them very clearly, if the leader is not compensating for them, and become acutely aware of how much you still have to improve. OR you will feel as if they magically disappeared. This can mean two things. One, the leader is discreetly helping you. Two, you are able to do these movements well, but only in ideal circumstances and with an ideal partner (also known as the “conscious competence” learning stage). 

If you are a leader dancing with a much more expert follower and relaxed enough to concentrate on the dancing, then you will find that practically everything you lead gives marvellous results. The tiniest impulse evokes a meaningful response and the blurriest of ideas transforms into something delicious or at least dignified. You will find yourself leading things you have never led before and expressing yourself in the music with much more ease. You might truly feel like a DANCER. Your problems with balance, pivoting or walking may still bother you but at the same time you will feel that somehow they do not bother your partner all that much. The overall experience will be quite enjoyable. However, all of this is only true if the follower decides to compensate for whatever is lacking in your lead. In a milonga this is what an experienced follower will do most of the time if s/he accepts your invitation. 

To understand this, imagine yourself trying to talk in a foreign language that you barely know to a native speaker. You can actually have a very good conversation if that person makes the effort to understand you, to ignore the imperfections, to finish your phrases here and there and to help you find the right words. Your conversation partner will do his or her best to understand you with as little input as possible, but will also limit their own expression to what you are able to understand in return. Now imagine that instead this person points out every single mistake that you make. You would promptly lose track of your thoughts and the whole conversation would become about how to say things correctly instead of what you actually want to say. And if this person starts speaking to you as if you were another native speaker, you wouldn’t be able to hold the conversation at all.

When I am teaching a leader or a follower, I do my best to make the student immediately aware of the results of our communication. Therefore in a class context, in movement terms, we have conversations about “how to speak properly” and “how to express oneself”, with some chatting practice. But in a social setting this kind of feedback would be too confrontational. In a milonga we want to make the best with what we have and to have a good time, not to make other people uncomfortable. This ability to compensate for the lack of skill in a partner is actually what makes a dancer truly advanced. The whole point of improving your technique is to become like a native speaker. This is also what makes dancing with an advanced dancer so fulfilling: s/he is independent of your skill yet able to communicate with you at YOUR best. This does not mean that advanced dancers always enjoy dancing with partners far below their level. Often they don’t. Compensating and trying to understand other dancers with very little input is hard work. Limiting your own range of expression just to have a simple conversation is frustrating. This is why experienced dancers tend to be picky. Not because they are snobs. Not because they look down on less experienced people. But because the inequality of the situation is hardly ever in their favor. 

If dancing with a much better dancer gives you a better EXPERIENCE, does this mean that you automatically become a better dancer yourself? 

Many students choose to take private classes with teachers of the opposite role instead of going to group classes. Working with an experienced partner does indeed create the MOST OPTIMAL conditions for improving your skill. You can be sure that what you lead or how you follow is felt and understood by the other party without the “noise” of their own struggles. You know that ninety-nine percent of all mistakes will be your mistakes. And even if in social context we very much like the phrase “there are no mistakes, only pure improvisation”, in a study you need some established notions of what works and what doesn’t, what is comfortable and what is not, what is right and what is wrong. Taking regular private classes offers a “fast track” and can deliver very good results, but only on two conditions. First, your teacher must give you precise feedback (meaning, not compensate for your shortcomings) and second, YOU must make consistent efforts to improve. 

This way of learning also has a potential risk. The more you practice exclusively with a professional of the opposite role, the more you become accustomed to these perfect conditions. This can leave you feeling helpless with people of your real level. With your social partners you might feel like all your hard-learnt technique vanishes into thin air and this means that you are still very much dependent on the other person. If this is the case, do not despair. You are in your “conscious competence” phase and if you persevere, things will get better.

This is why I recommend starting to study tango by going to beginner classes, not directly with private classes. If you put a total beginner with a professional teacher, the beginner will feel that things work out well most of the time. Working exclusively with a private teacher might make you a very lonely social dancer. There is a risk of ending up with unrealistic expectations for both the people of your own level and the more advanced dancers. The first won’t satisfy you and the second won’t dance with you for some time. Therefore I advise beginners to take regular group classes and to practice with other beginners for at least a year. Even if it seems slower and more painstaking, it does achieve something very important: it teaches you to be patient. It shows you the importance of accepting the struggles of your partner and your own struggles as your partner reflects them back to you. It prepares you for the social context of tango by cultivating compassion.

We often so desperately want to do things right that we forget that we have to do them wrong many times and enjoy the process before we actually get anywhere. Learning together with other people of similar experience prepares you for the group dynamics and partner changing of social dancing in which nobody is perfect. It teaches you to finetune your skill despite other people’s problems. And there is also a tremendous sense of achievement in progressing TOGETHER with your partner when, after mutual struggles, things finally start working. Believe me, there is nothing quite like that feeling. If you ever studied a foreign language, think of trying to have a conversation with other language students. You all struggled and searched for words, yet how glorious it felt to be able to communicate!

Observing that certain people learn faster by dancing with more experienced dancers has led to a serious misunderstanding. Namely, that simply by having access to better dancers anybody will somehow automatically improve. This is not true. Dancing with a better dancer in a social setting will in most cases simply give you an enjoyable experience at their expense. You will not dance better until YOU intend to dance better and until you put some effort into it, with or without their help. If you find yourself chasing the better dancers without offering something in return, you are being a consumer, not an equal partner. If you demand that they dance with you because this is supposed to be the only way for you to improve, you are using it as an excuse to coerce them into dancing with you. 

In smaller communities the argument “how else are we supposed to learn?” is used to pressure advanced dancers to keep in touch with the beginners. Some efforts to mix the community and to create a more welcoming environment for the newcomers is definitely a good thing. However, I believe that we should be less hung up on our general (and incorrect) definition of levels and leave it to the individuals to choose with whom they feel or do not feel like dancing. We have to remember that someone’s appeal as a dancer is composed of several sliders on a mixing table and that people choose to connect with each other for very different reasons. We also have to respect the advanced dancers. They are a small, tough and very motivated minority and want, like everybody else, to dance to the best of their abilities.

All of the above poses another interesting question. If it’s true that we can improve while dancing with better dancers (provided we are making an effort), then is the reverse also true? Do better dancers become somehow less good when dancing too much with people far below their level? 

When professional leaders spend a lot of time teaching and dancing with inexperienced followers, they might develop “unhealthy” habits. These habits come from consciously or unconsciously compensating the students’ flaws and may result in “over-leading”, tension in the arms and forceful movement. When confronted with a partner of their own level, these leaders might put too much energy into leading movements for which an expert follower needs only very little input. Besides, with their students these leaders practice a simpler vocabulary than they are capable of, risking losing the finesse of more complex movements if they do not practice. The same can be said of professional followers who dance a lot with inexperienced leaders. When they have to follow someone of their own level again, they might feel overwhelmed with the complexity and the subtleties of the lead. Dancing with students does not make these followers less accomplished, but it does make them feel rusty. They might, like the leaders, lose the feeling of ease in dancing more complex dynamics, unless they dance or practice regularly with a partner of the same level.

If you spend a day in the forest chopping wood and then try to play the piano, your fingers will be stiff and insensitive at first. If you spend a day entertaining toddlers, to have a complex debate on international politics in the evening might require some mental readjustment. The same mechanism is at play here as everywhere else: the more you practice something the better you become, and the reverse is true as well. This is why advanced dancers from smaller communities in which they are a tiny minority (and often teachers), feel like their skill is deteriorating with time. They feel the need to travel on a regular basis to meet other advanced dancers just to feel complete, to feel like they can still truly dance. 

Whatever side of the equation you find yourself on, understand that it is never the other dancers that directly enhance or worsen your skills. What they do is provide you with a context, but YOU decide how to deal with it. You can choose to work on your dance with the help or despite your external conditions. This dance requires a lot of skill and a profound connection. If tango were a dance in which everybody just happily danced with everybody else regardless of all the variables I talked about, it would be a very different dance. It would never give us moments of such intense joy that its effect on our brain has been scientifically shown to equal that of meditation. We do pay a price for this intensity, for these moments of incredible connection, but the fact that this does not come easy to us for me is just one more reason to love it.

RUSSIAN, FRENCH, FINNISH, POLISH

July 19, 2017

Why we are told to dance with our hearts

One day a new student came for a private class and said to me: “You know, I have taken classes with all these wonderful teachers. I am a beginner, so of course I struggle, and I keep being told that I have to dance like a macho. But I am not a macho. I don’t want to be a macho. I really dislike machos. Does this mean I can never dance tango?”

In my years as a teacher I have heard many examples of students being profoundly marked by something a teacher said to them. These words stay with people for a long time. Some are revealing, consciousness-shifting experiences. Others can leave the student deeply confused, even traumatised. I believe it is important to understand how we convey dance with words, how we talk to our students and our dance partners, what terminology we use to give feedback, to correct and to inspire. Each body discipline has developed its own vocabulary, which does not only name the specific movements, but also reflects, on a deeper level, the discipline’s underlying philosophy. Tango is no exception. 

Let’s consider some of the body disciplines that tango people often exercise besides tango. If we analyse the fitness vocabulary, we will encounter what I would call a “fighter’s mindset”. The moves are called kicks, punches, crunches, pushups, the person is encouraged to overcome the body: to push, to destroy in order to rebuild, to go beyond its limits with power and determination, to focus on better results. Burn that booty! Crunch those abs! It works when it hurts! 

Yoga, on the other hand, reflects a very different philosophy. It has developed for many centuries as a spiritual practice so there we find a poetic reflection of life’s basic unity. There is a rich imagery full of animals: swans, cobras, dogs, cats, cows, but also warriors, babies, trees, the sun, the moon and so forth. When clarifying the poses, yoga teachers would invite their students to “grow roots into the earth”, “reach for the sky” and “open their hearts”. It is a practice directed at developing a profound conscious presence while doing physically demanding exercises.

Body practices such as Pilates, Floor Barre or Gyrotonics have a more neutral, to-the-point terminology. These disciplines were developed for professional dancers originally and are rooted in anatomical knowledge. A movement’s name is meant to convey how it is done: leg scissors, swimming, roll up, shoulder bridge. Gyrotonic is possibly the most poetic of the three, with nature-related names such as “dolphin” and “wave”. Teachers of these disciplines  talk to their students about “navel to spine”, “pelvis tuck” and “the spine lengthening”. This bodywork aims at creating a better alignment, more flexibility and a stronger, healthier body. 

Classical ballet talks to its students in French. If you do not speak French, ballet classes feel like a bizarre mystical cult, yet in itself ballet vocabulary is surprisingly straightforward. You will find knee bends, leg circles, kicks and jumps, plus some historical words, reminiscent of the French royal court: crowns, arabesques, curtsies. Modern and contemporary dance use a mix of classical and more recent dance vocabulary, depending on the style. In dance the mastery of movement serves artistic expression, so dance terminology is always a mix of biomechanics (push, stretch, extend, point) and expressive imagery (reach, grow, slide, caress, expand, explode).

Tango terminology reflects its philosophy as a couple dance based on a very close connection, but also its spontaneous development. Many of the tango moves we dance today originated in a misstep. The dancers would say “hey, that’s interesting”, elaborate it into a new move and give it a name that came to mind. Movement labelling in tango is both straightforward (walk, turns, embrace) as well as imagery-based (eight, halfmoon, hook, merry-go-round, a-thing-that-flies). The way teachers explain movement to the students reflect biomechanics but also the connection to the partner, or what I call the “human factor”. For biomechanics tango teachers often borrow terminology from other body disciplines, depending on personal experience. The connection, however, is something quite specific to tango. And this is where it becomes really tricky. The moment we start talking about the human factor, things become, well… personal.

It is one thing to learn what to do with different body parts and another thing to be told how to relate to another being. Human factor is the kind of information that allows you to move better and to sustain connection. It is, paradoxically, also a technique, meaning that it can be improved with effective guidance. Just like a dancer can be taught to stretch the leg, s/he can be taught to embrace with feeling, to be more present in the dance, to be giving and reactive. But these things are more difficult to explain than leg stretches, they are more subtle and the result of an INTENTION rather than a direct action. Therefore they demand an intention-based terminology. Tango has always struggled to find such terminology. These struggles gave us the well-known “dance with your heart” mantra, “dance as if no one is watching”, “abandon yourself to the lead” and “dance as if you were living a three-minutes long love story”. 

The problem with these kinds of statements is that they are too vague to give results but still feel like they make a point. They are prone to various interpretations, so people tend to believe they understand what they are being told or feel too ashamed to admit they do not. What exactly is not clear about “dancing with your heart”, right? Well, NOTHING is clear about that. It’s a poetic metaphor for showing your authentic self and making your partner feel that you love this dance, enjoy this music and appreciate him/her. See how many words I used to describe my interpretation of that metaphor? You might have understood it differently, however. For example, that dancing with your heart means thrusting your chest forward. Or, perhaps, to let the energy wash through your heart chakra. 

Another problem with human factor statements is that they are often implicitly judgemental. Dancers are told things such as “You cannot be insecure now! To dance tango you have to be sure of yourself!” or things like “You have to bring out your full femininity. Be sensual, be sexy. Show him you want him.” These statements bite harshly when said in a moment of vulnerability. Telling a leader who struggles to keep his balance “Get out there and be a man!” does not make him dance better, it shatters his self-confidence. Telling a tense, panicking woman who can’t get comfortable in the embrace to “be sexy” makes her want to go home and cry. 

Among the worst examples – in my opinion – are the ones that oppose one culture to another. Telling people that Argentinian men dance better because “they are not afraid to embrace a woman” achieves nothing except damaging the student’s already fragile self-esteem. Saying that “no woman embraces like a Russian woman” implies that women of other cultures can pack up their shoes. We should remember that each culture has its own attitude to physical touch, its own history of gender relations, its own notion of private space, resulting in behaviour that will influence how people dance and communicate. To dismiss these differences is both ignorant and disrespectful. Does this mean a person from one culture can never dance like a person from another culture? Possibly, yes. Does this mean this person cannot dance tango? No, that’s absurd.

Except for the cases in which a teacher or a dance partner enjoys feeling superior while making the other person feel diminished, the above statements are actually made with truly good intentions. They are an attempt to describe something that is very hard to describe: namely, a kind of a mental and body state that helps create a fulfilling dance. But because it is such a blurry domain, a lot of it is badly explained and frequently misunderstood. Yet we have to talk about it, to teach it, to practice it. Without human factor tango would not only be devoid of meaning, it would simply not work.

So, how to talk about human factor to another person without becoming vague and judgemental? 

If we look closer into what we actually are trying to say with things such as “be sure of yourself” or “bring out your sensuality”, we will realise that they describe the RESULT of an intention but are formulated as an instruction. And this is bound to confuse people. Feeling and showing self-confidence is the result of a prior process. No one has yet become confident or sensual just because s/he was told to do so. It’s like telling a depressed person to cheer up. So what we really need is to formulate the PROCESS of getting there in neutral and precise terms. Preferably, in movement-related terms. For this the teacher (or the dance partner who is giving advice) has to understand what it is exactly s/he is asking the other person to achieve by being “sure” or “sensual”. What is it for? Confidence could lead to more decisive movements or a more upright posture. Sensuality, in some cases, could mean softening the tension in the arms, in another case it could mean moving in a more grounded way. Find an intention or an action that serves that purpose and then, when seeing the result, tell the student or the dance partner: yes, this is what I mean. Now your movement feels sensual to me, it feels confident, I feel you are fully present. It will make the other person feel good both about the result AND their personal qualities. 

To the student from the beginning of the article I said approximately the following: “When teachers tell you to dance like a macho, what they are trying to say is that they would like you to be more determined in your every move. When you walk, walk with the intention to really go forward, as if you had a clear goal in mind. If you decide to do a move, finish it, even if you end up messing it up. Pick up from there and move on. Being determined in your mouvements does not make you into another person, it simply brings out the more determined version of yourself. Some people might call it “macho”, I call it being sure about what you are going to do. Anyone who tells you to become someone else in order to dance tango has not understood what tango is really all about. So yes, you can dance tango. We all can. But sometimes expressing our true self in dance is the most difficult and the most terrifying part of it all.”

GERMANRUSSIAN

February 1, 2017

Why leading and following actually work

Did you ever ask yourself how it is possible for two people to coordinate their movements to tango music so precisely as to practically become one constantly shape-shifting entity? Have you ever watched a particularly skillful tango performance and been amazed at how flawless the human connection can become in an experienced couple, despite the speed, the risks involved, the stress, the improvisation, the difficult dance moves? Did you ever wonder about its magic? After many years in tango, this connection phenomenon still blows my mind. And yet every day I teach people to do just that: to connect to another being, to lead or follow, to become one with the music, to coordinate one’s body movements to the movements of another person and to improvise together. 

We all know it is not an easy thing to learn. Some of us know it is a damn hard thing to teach. Yet, not only is it possible, it happens everywhere. Tango is magic and all of us are its magicians. We rarely give it a second thought. We rarely stop to wonder just how this magic happens.

Tango is about leading and following another person, but why does it work? Scientific research partially answers this question by demonstrating that “coordinating physical actions with other humans can lead us to integrate their bodies into our own body schema in much the same way that interacting with objects extends our perception of our physical boundaries.” In other words, practicing tango allows our brain to attune our perception to our partner’s body movements. The underlying mechanism appears to be the same as for an experienced violinist who feels the violin become part of his or her body, or for an experienced horse rider feeling “fused” with the horse. 

This makes perfect sense. However, I would like to add a different, somewhat more trivial explanation. From my own experience as dancer and teacher I have the impression that leading and following in tango works well for the simple reason that all of us lead and follow other people in our everyday life ALL THE TIME.

First, we need to define what leading and following means. I am talking here about bodily interaction through movement. Following means taking a physical clue from another person and responding to it in a way suggested by this physical clue. Following is a deliberate (but not necessarily conscious) decision to move accordingly to the clue and one’s own will, within given possibilities. In other words, it is not about being manipulated or forced. Leading, therefore, means giving those physical clues, making clear how you would like the follower to move. Leading also has nothing to do with force or manipulation and does not necessarily involve physical contact. 

If you observe yourself and other people interacting in your everyday life, you will soon see plenty of examples of physical leading and following. Opening and holding the door for somebody involves leading on your part and following by the other person. When playing with a small child you often lead and the child follows, but also sometimes you follow the child. Any team sport involves a constantly changing interplay of leading and following. The orchestra director leads, the musicians follow, but the singer or the soloist can lead, too, and the accompanying musician follows. When you point at a beautiful sight, your friends automatically look in that direction (we do that a lot in Paris).

Most of the time we do not perceive these interactions as leading and following because they are deeply ingrained in our everyday dynamics. So deeply, they have become reflexes. When waiting in a queue you move as soon as the queue leads you to move; when someone gestures to an empty chair in a metro you sit down; when a child throws a ball at you, you catch. And just as you play the “follower”, you “lead”, too: throwing back the ball, offering an empty seat, moving as the head of a waiting line. 

Of course, in our daily life leading and following are far from being as precise as in two experienced tango dancers improvising. The split-second precision in a tango couple is the result of years of practicing and tuning the dancers’ reflexes to specific dance movements. Yet, at its basis, we can identify generic body mechanisms that we all master in the course of our lives. And not only that: our nervous system is programmed to lead and follow each other by movement. We do it from our first days as babies because it is inherent to our functioning as social animals. When I realised that, I asked myself: could I, as a teacher, become more aware of these human reflexes to make tango easier to learn and more intuitive for my students? 

The reason this question occupied my mind had to do with a specific problem. There exists a widely observed phenomenon in tango, namely, that the first one to two years of learning tango seem to be harder for leaders than they are for followers. Not always, but often. In most cases we are talking here about men leading and women following, and gender certainly does play a part in it, but the difficulty has more to do with the role itself. For the followers the learning becomes more challenging once the woman gets to work on some serious technique, after the first two years, trying to improve her balance and aesthetics. It is a common understanding that until then following is somehow easier to learn than leading. For a long time I have been observing this phenomenon and asking myself what makes leading more difficult to master in the beginning. Now I believe that this comes (among other things) from the simple fact that in our everyday life we follow others more than we lead, especially if living in a densely populated environment. 

This is a bold claim to make without any empirical evidence, but by simply analysing my own life in a big city I come to the conclusion that my movements are more often determined by the reflex to follow. Taking up the available space, moving around in crowds, using public transportation, going into shops, waiting in lines, walking around with a friend: I find myself following more often than leading. I do not think this has much to do with my gender or my tango role. It might have something to do with my quiet temperament and that in some situations I would choose to follow rather than to lead, while a different person would choose differently. Yet I believe that the mere fact of living in communities, surrounded by people, sustaining social ties on a daily basis makes us all follow more often than lead.

What do we tell beginning followers? To stop thinking. “Stop thinking” does not mean we want them to become brainless zombies. What we want is for them to trust their reflexes MORE than their analytical assessment of the situation. We ask them to rely on fast, intuitive thinking rather than on slow, rational one. A lot of leaders tell me that, when trying to follow, their dance seems to flow more, their body relaxes once they have “let go”. That internal switch from “doing” to “flowing” makes us perceive following as more natural and spontaneous, and therefore “easier” . Here it is important to understand that “following” and “dancing well” are not one and the same thing. After dancing as a follower for many years I can tell you that the follower’s role is not inherently easier than the leader’s role (I actually believe it is more difficult, but this is a topic for a different article).

If we want to make leading easier to learn, we should look for examples of the “lead reflex” in our daily life and start developing the leading skill from there. Just like any other movement in tango, leading has its origins in some trivial, everyday movement any of us can do. When teaching how to lead I tend to use several analogies. One is playing with a child or a dog, making them follow you through space, coming towards you or away from you, all the time accompanying them with your own movement. Another quite successful analogy is that of moving furniture: not because of the furniture, but because to move something heavy you have to coordinate your movements with another person, while taking care of some object or space between partners (the inner space of the couple). When moving heavy furniture, say, taking a piano down some stairs, one person needs to lead the way through the staircase and another one needs to follow, carefully, step by step. Shopping together is another excellent example of leading and following. When walking through a shopping street one person would unconsciously take the lead, stopping at some shops, walking in, inviting the other to follow. Shopping with another person never feels the same as shopping alone, even if you each go your separate ways inside a shop. There is still a keen physical awareness of another body somewhere in your vicinity, connected to your own movements. This connection is very useful to explore for tango purposes, taking it to a higher level of sophistication and precision.

This is why, ultimately, comparing a follower to a car is futile. Yes, there is something like an action and a response involved in driving a vehicle but at the same time we are talking about an inanimate object programmed to react in a predictable way, mechanically, to input. A car does not follow: it executes a command. Following is a deliberate action, determined much more by the follower, her or his capacities and desires than by what is actually being led. 

Eventually, if you analyse any human activity involving more than one person, you would clearly identify leading and following movement patterns. Every time you tell tango students that tango is something very special and has no parallels in his or her everyday movements, you make their learning process more difficult. Tango is a dance meant to be danced by anyone, at any age and with any body type, and the more we explain its movements through their origins in our everyday reflexes, the faster people will learn to dance in a spontaneously natural way. It does, of course, demystify tango a great deal, but in my opinion teachers only need mystique when they are unable to explain something in a comprehensible way. Tango may seem a bit less magical in our eyes, considering all of the above, yet, when a true connection is there, every single time, it still feels magical in our bodies.

RUSSIANROMANIANPOLISHGERMAN

July 23, 2016

Why we believe technique kills emotion

There exists a belief that focusing too much on technique will put you at risk of becoming an emotionally detached dancer. In tango, this is a very serious risk. If saying “this dancer is not very accomplished technically, but has great human qualities in his or her dance”  about someone can be considered a compliment, saying that someone’s dance is too technical and not emotional enough often means that this person did not understand what tango is really about. We seem to believe that technique can become the opposite of emotion, or human factor in general. To my articles in which I discuss the difficulties of learning the skills of tango, every now and then I get the reaction “Yes, yes, that’s all very nice, but you know, you dance tango with your HEART and all the technique in the world will not teach you this!” 

The tension between technique and emotion is not new, we perceive them as sometimes complementing and sometimes opposing notions in many domains of life, not just tango. In all dance forms teachers and choreographers complain about dancers becoming so driven by perfection that, as a ballet teacher once said, “they seem to be in love with their own legs!” In dance, being absorbed by the technicalities of a movement prevents the dancer from “becoming” the movement and therefore from expressing all that which lies beyond, such as intention, narrative, imagery, mood, emotion, soul and passion.

This tension field between technique and emotion is created in the first place in the way we master any kind of complex skill: the learning process takes up most of our focus. As long as you are learning to master a smooth giro, the emotion will be the last thing on your mind. This study mindset, requiring a complete focus on the task, is what we develop in the context of classes and practicas. As long as our bodymind feels overwhelmed with difficulty, we will tend to “do” rather than “become”. If, after we have arrived at a sufficiently skilled level, we keep this mindset of concentrating on “doing”, our movement will never be fully embodied and our being therefore never fully expressed. 

In any kind of a dance class teachers regularly urge their students, now and then, to stop “executing” and to bring their entire being into movement. It is only then that a movement can become more than a physical action. In some cases, to forcefully leave this mindset, a dancer must completely let himself or herself go and take the risk of doing it IMPERFECTLY for the sake of doing it with real feeling. In each dance we are facing the same trap: the risk of concentrating so much on doing the dance that we forget to live it.

In tango the word “technical” is often used to describe an obsession with complex steps or movement. In social dancing to focus entirely on steps and movement is considered the highest degree of treason as you forsake the connection to your partner and dance by yourself, using the other person as an instrument. This is allowed while practicing, in order to improve, but not in social context. Once in a milonga, you are supposed to put your heart and soul into it. Yet, this is not about technique: it is about FOCUS. Technique is a tool helping you to dance with the least effort possible in the most graceful and efficient way. It is this effortless quality that allows for true expression and makes your dance feel free, exhilarating and so close to flying. Technique gives you freedom of expression by giving you the freedom of movement. What we call “technical yet unemotional” should be more accurately called “movement-focused” or “disconnected”, because, when focusing entirely on how to do the movement, we inevitably disconnect to some extent from the partner, the music, the dance and our emotional self. Being technical means having a certain quality of technique, not being technique-obsessed. All dancers wish they were truly technical, for then they could forget about it.  

A very interesting phenomenon occurs when a person who has been trying to do something perfectly, lets go of this focus and consciously connects to the music, or an image, or an intention. Suddenly the technical quality of the movement improves dramatically! Why is that? You see, when you focus exclusively on the physical action, you neglect the other parameters that create an effortlessly danced movement: its musicality, intentionality and connectedness. This is why dancing with a “technical” focus makes us move in a mechanical way, with either too little or too much energy, either emotionally detached or pathetically frantic. 

The above phenomenon explains why teachers so often, instead of reminding you “to put the foot forward heel-first, then roll it until you arrive” will tell you “now, walk softly, like a cat, imagine your feet are massaging the floor”. Imagery in dance is used precisely for the purpose of enlarging your focus to incorporate other things: music, space, energy, your partner, intention and emotion. This is why images are so effective in dance: when they hit the target your movement becomes instantly COMPLETE. You do need, at some point, to understand the mechanics of a movement in order to bring your technique to a higher level, but to go beyond mechanics you will need an image or an intention. And you need it at every stage, not just after the mechanics have become perfect, because, as we see, the mechanics will not be perfect unless your awareness includes more than just mechanics.

Understanding the movement-focused way of dancing makes us understand why we oppose it to “emotion”. In the tango context I would describe “emotion” as the extent to which you let your personal presence be felt and seen by the other person in an authentic and open way, in other words, whether you are fully present in what you do. When you disconnect from various aspects of the dance and concentrate uniquely on doing the physical movement, you disconnect from your emotions as well. 

We should not confuse emotion with being “all over the place”. An excess of emotions actually disturbs your dance, as your bodymind becomes overwhelmed. One of the reasons we have technique is to be able to feel and show strong emotion yet to keep the body movement within our control. Tango is a dance in which the emotions are directed inside the couple, towards the other more than to the outside, even if you are performing. In tango therefore quite often things do not look the way they feel. Not all that looks complex is necessarily technical: sometimes the least eye-catching dancer in the room is the most technical one. Likewise, not everybody who looks emotionally expressive will feel genuinely present in the embrace. Often a somewhat cold or aloof looking dancer will give you the most intense dance experience.

Teachers are often criticised for making people “technique-focused” as they spend so much time on showing students how to do the steps properly. Many people hold the opinion that studying ruins your authentic connection to tango and that you should go about it intuitively, by feeling and desire only, by human factor alone. If you believe that this has been your way through tango and it paid off very well, you probably do not realise that the way you dance has been largely copied from and influenced by people around you, as well as adapted to the movements of your partners, in other words, there is still a technical part to it that has simply not been the result of a structured study. There isn’t much you can do on a dance floor if all you can offer your partner is a big corazón. Technique is not the problem. The problem is the belief that knowing how to move will make you dance, or the belief that being a lovely person and knowing how to embrace will make you a dancer. Neither of these things ALONE will. However, combined, they can bring about what I still consider, after all these years, to be pure magic. 

There is also another reason why in tango we are so sensitive to this apparent tension between technique and emotionality, and it has everything to do with the nature of the dance itself.

One of the reasons many social dancers do not enjoy watching tango artists perform choreography is that, to them, the mere fact of it being a choreography diminishes the emotional pleasure they get from watching it. Yet, paradoxically, those same viewers may be moved to tears watching a ballet or a contemporary dance performance which is always strictly choreographed. It would never cross their mind to look at Baryshnikov dance, shrug and say: “Well, all very well, but that’s choreography, it does not really touch me emotionally.” In tango, however, we believe that the dancers’ vulnerability in the context of total improvisation brings out that deep emotional charge and that profound and very particular human connection that we see as a UNIQUE CHARACTERISTIC of tango and associate specifically with this dance. In a sense, tango is like a thriller: it seems at every turn that the dancers won’t make it, yet somehow every time they do. In tango we want to see human nature act out spontaneously in these moments of utter insecurity, with all the resulting suspense, abandonment and surprises, yet eventually sail through it with mastery and aplomb. This is why the choreographies that we do like in tango are those that are able to invoke this sense of risk, by a very difficult technical achievement, or by a very strong, often extreme emotion, but most of all by invoking this special human connection specific to tango.

Ultimately, it all comes down to connection: connection to yourself, to emotion, to dance, to music, to your partner, to space. Connection in itself is a technique and at the same time a human factor, therefore difficult to explain and teach. Yet it remains the primary feature in tango, making it into what we know and what we so passionately love, and without which all the techniques and emotions of the world are nothing more than notes on a score, simply waiting for you to play the music.

RUSSIANGERMANCHINESEROMANIAN

January 14, 2016

Why tango teachers ask you to imagine things

Think about the last tango class you went to. There is a fair chance that at some point the teacher said: “Now, imagine that…”, followed by a mental image. Maybe it was directly related to tango culture (“imagine wearing a very tight skirt”) or to something generally familiar (“imagine a balloon held gently between your and your partner’s chests”). The teacher then asked you to move with that image in mind, to “embody” it. You might remember how your movement suddenly changed in all of its aspects. By becoming the image you allowed the image to become you and the movement you were trying to do suddenly worked in a different way. 

Imagery is a didactic and choreographic tool used in virtually any dance. But why? What makes images so powerfully effective? Which images work for tango and which don’t? How can you use images effectively in your practice as a student, dancer or teacher?

When teaching or learning to dance, we rely on four modes of conveying the movement: a visual example, a kinaesthetic or sensory example, functional explanations and imagery. Visual examples are given when the teachers perform the movement in front of you. The kinaesthetic quality of a movement can be felt in another person’s body through the embrace or in your own body with the teacher’s guidance. Functional explanations are verbal descriptions of various mechanical details, a breakdown of movement into parts: positions, use of muscle groups, postural alignment, applied force and so on. Imagery is used to represent a composite concept deeply associated with the movement.

Ideally, during a tango class a teacher operates in all the above modes, providing you with as much information as possible from as many angles as possible. Sometimes a teacher has a preference or a particularly developed competence in one of the modes. However, using only one mode is not enough. If a teacher shows the movement but is unable to explain how it is done or to provide useful imagery, we say: “s/he is a very good dancer but unfortunately has no didactic skills”. Visual and sensory aspects are the RESULTS of biomechanics. We also need to know HOW TO GET THERE. Of course, a lot of information is already contained within the example: directions, dynamics, positions, speed and so forth. The more a student is experienced, the less explanation s/he will need to copy a movement skillfully. However, in order to reproduce a movement in all its deeper aspects, the student needs to conceptualise it in the same way as the teacher. This conceptualisation is where it all starts. By looking at how a person moves, an experienced teacher can immediately tell what CONCEPTION of a particular movement this person has in his/her body and mind. This conception is always an image and often it is unconscious. The next stage is to make the person aware of the current conception and to start changing it by offering different images.

This explains why you can never learn tango by only watching YouTube videos, what you are seeing are just the results of the dancers’ understanding of the movement. The most important bodywork in dance is invisible. While you are mesmerized watching the free leg draw an intricate adorno, it is the standing leg and the dancer’s core that are making the effort of keeping the dancer in balance. If you are advanced, a video could be sufficient to make you learn a new sequence or to improve a certain alignment. A beginner, however, will need a live person to show and explain how a movement works, over and over and over again. 

Functional explanation of movement is a very valuable tool. It often demonstrates the degree of the teacher’s biomechanical and anatomical knowledge. Yet, functional explanation has one important drawback: it works algorithmically, emphasizing the order of things, charging the mind with too many details and conditions to remember, giving multiple tasks and engaging our slower, verbal, analytical way of thinking. If I were to tell you in a detailed way how to do a cross step in terms of all relevant parameters, I could talk for an hour and at the end you would be so loaded with information, you would stay frozen in your tracks. Our bodies do not move because we give them rational verbal orders. Also, humans can only hold a tiny number of conditions in mind at once to perform a task. Following a purely functional explanation leads to robotic movement, devoid of expression and musicality, this is why functional explanations are never enough to make people dance. Our bodies are not machines. We are living creatures and we move, literally, in mysterious ways.

A visual example shows you the result; a sensory example makes you feel the result; a functional explanation makes you understand how the body parts work together to create the result, exposing the underlying programming and hardware; imagery, however, does something entirely different. An effective image contains at once an explanation and a result. This explanation, or more precisely, the included understanding of a movement is visual, sensory, immediate and intuitive. Do not let the word “image” fool you: it is not only about how something looks, it is about how something looks and feels and happens, at once. Images make you grasp, holistically, the essence of a movement by associating it with something you know. If images are used effectively in dance training, the students will not necessarily require all the mechanical and anatomical details, although in my experience tango students do appreciate this kind of information. Adults often possess some anatomical knowledge and like to understand their bodies intellectually. Yet, after a long explanation on biomechanics, it is always an image that sparks that final understanding and makes the movement work. 

So, what are the parameters of an effective image?

An image, contrary to functional explanation, must convey not only the mechanics of a movement, but most of all its basic INTENTION. Intention is a directional desire that can be expressed by a verb. Intention is the deeper energetic impulse from which the movement derives its shape. If we tell the students: “imagine you are a waiter in an expensive restaurant presenting an exquisite dish to your customer”, this image will have an immediate and very similar response in most people. Each person will straighten up, slightly lift the chin, assume a proud, somewhat arrogant posture and then perform the “presenting” gesture of the arm with a sense of emphasized decorum. Instead, if you say “imagine a proud posture”, this will not have the same immediate and uniform result. It would lead to approximative, caricatural notions of what “a proud posture” means to every single student and, most of all, it will remain STATIC. 

An image must be PRECISE. It must describe a very specific and familiar situation or sensation in order for the student to INSTANTLY identify with it. When teachers say things such as “imagine you are a macho” or “imagine dancing with your heart”, most students will have problems identifying themselves with something at once so general and so prone to diverse interpretations. If the image makes you ask more questions than it answers, if it leaves you with a foggy feeling, it means that the image is not precise or not familiar to you. Unfortunately, a great many tango teachers bedazzle students with all kinds of unskillful imagery, leading to confusion about the most basic biomechanics. For example, consider the often used image of “separating your upper body from your lower body”. It seems to be very precise and to give a clear intention. Yet, this results in people inflating their rib cages, thrusting the chest up, holding in the breath and stiffening in various parts of the body: the opposite of a good dance posture. The term “separating” describes the result, it does not tell HOW to get there. An effective image offers a specific directional vector and a PROCESS. Now, consider the suggestion to “imagine zipping up a pair of very tight pants”. The students will ground their feet on the floor, straighten their legs, suck in the lower abdominals, and bring the pelvic area slightly backwards. At the same time they will straighten the torso upward through the spine and open the chest somewhat forward and up. Now we have a result much closer to what we are looking for in dance posture – and everybody is still breathing.

An image has to speak to people, to come from their own experience. You can only tell someone to “put down his feet softly like a panther” if this person is familiar with panthers. This is where cultural differences play a crucial role. I have heard of an Argentinian teacher telling her students to put down their feet as if crushing an ex-lover who had been mean to them at every step. To me, with my cultural background and experience, such an image is too violent. A more neutral image of “gradually pushing a button into the floor as you arrive on your foot” works better for most of my students. The image of “dancing with the woman as if you wished to have sex with her later” might be comfortably appropriate in one culture yet may block all movement in someone from a different culture.

Ideally, an image should activate a reflex, bypassing all mental effort. Impersonating characters and animals works to a certain extent, provided the students are familiar with what you are talking about. Moods can work well (such as “imagine feeling bouncy, like a Sunday walk, lazily strolling, relaxing in the sun”), as long as they indicate a specific behavior. An image does not necessarily always serve a movement, it can also serve a general attitude in dance, such as “I hold myself proudly like a queen” or “I project my energy into the space in all directions at once”. When your students come to your evening class exhausted from work, do a warming up exercise asking them to jump up and down like children and then to let the tension softly melt through their feet into the ground. Their faces will relax and they will start smiling, letting the energy circulate more freely through their bodies. If you want to learn more about useful dance imagery, I highly recommend books and videos by Eric Franklin.

Yet even the most effective images do not necessarily work for everyone, for various reasons. If you feel a pang of recognition and your movement instantly acquires a specific quality that you were looking for, then the image worked. You should keep it in mind for later practice and dancing. If an image did not work for you, simply find a different one. Each movement can be “imaged” in a myriad of ways. Mystically, images sometimes have an expiry date, they might stop working after a while. This can mean that you have integrated the movement into your system and the image is no longer recognised as fresh. Although each image emphasizes one particular aspect of a movement, at the same time, and this is truly wonderful, it involves your WHOLE BODY in the totality of the given movement. This is also what makes images so powerful: by concentrating on one single intention your body suddenly organises itself around it in a very intelligent and extremely efficient way. 

It may happen that images do not work for you at all or only occasionally. Instead you learn best from visual and sensory examples or with detailed functional explanation. In this case simply tell the teacher that all these “soft panther paws”, “balloons stuck to the chest” and “crushing the brains of your exes” are not doing the job for you. Ask to give you the information in a way that makes you feel the “click” and improves your movement. We all have imagination yet our brains are not all wired in the same way. This is why it is important to find teachers who speak your “language” in terms of learning and to become such a teacher to yourself. Remember that our movements are governed by a system far more complex and intricate than anything we can understand and it is always a combination of things that makes us move in delicious ways, feeling at once light and powerful, spontaneous yet in control, free to express ourselves in dance. Images are often the only gateways leading you to this freedom.

RUSSIAN, ITALIANHUNGARIAN

May 5, 2021